'The Child Listener™ is also founder of 'Read Australia'
'Parents Aboard' - Be a Part of Raising
Standards of Literacy Across Australia!
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Confused about your child or teenager's behaviour
and don't know what to do about it? Is it normal?

The Child Listener™ is currently unavailable for private
consultations while she is working on several new
projects. She is however offering free advice to a limited
number of site visitors- posted online for public viewing
(without personal info) to not only help you but others
who might be wondering the same thing.


Email Emma with your questions and you might be offered free advice!
Please include as much information as possible- she can only
respond to the information you provide.

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The Child Listener™ specialises in helping parents and teachers learn to listen
to children and teenagers - and hear the words that are not spoken, as well
as to more accurately interpret what is being said.

Understanding children allows us to gain a greater insight into the 'why'
of unwanted - and wanted!- behaviour, so that we can work more effectively
towards long term goals, rather than using a quick fix/ band-aid type approach.

A few words from The Child Listener™

Parenting is tough- regardless of how many children you may have,
or how much experience you may have they are all different. So how
can we parent all children in the same way and expect to meet
their individual needs? What works for one may not work for others-
so you need to get ahead of the game and learn how to 'get' each child.
If you understand how they think, react, what they need etc- you can
help them develop to their potential far more effectively.

To do this really well you need to first understand your own ideas
relating to parenting - address your own experiences as a child and
belief system about what 'parenting' is- and learn from this.
We all tend to think our way is the right way- and sometimes that can
block us from finding a better way, that works for everyone.

I love working with adults who want to be the best parent they can
be - who realise they will never be perfect- and are fine with that, and
at the same time strive to be better! They are
strong enough emotionally to be able to let their kids know they mess
up too- it's a great way to learn! - and that everyone can learn from
one another. They realise they dont have all the answers and are excited
by the journey of life, with their family by their side. Even when everyone
has a different opinion there can still be humour and love. Being
'right' isnt the name of the game for these family members!

One of the first questions I ask parents is - what do you
want for your child for the future?
If you want them to be happy, well-adjusted, independent, confident
adults then what you do today determines if they will achieve this.
If you consider that every interaction you have with your child will
have an impact on their development, and future, then perhaps
those interactions should become more positive and meaningful?
Perhaps you might even begin to analyse those interactions, and be more
proactive with regards to ensuring that every interaction
is a learning experience?

I believe that this is part of what truly insirational parenting is
about- growing, learning (you as well as them) and being amazing people!
Instead of focussing on the behaviour you dont want, focus on how
you are teaching your child what you do want and how you are teaching
them to express themselves, how to be kinder people who also know
what they want from life, and how to get it.

We need to be less reactive, less focussed on behaviour- and parent
with a more solutions based approach. When your child throws her
juice in anger across the room how many of you tell her we dont throw
things- and then ask her why she is angry, an try to help her express
her feelings more appropriately? So many of us miss out that 'teaching'
step - we miss the 'guiding' and 'learning' part, to focus on
'controlling' unwanted behaviour. When a child behaves in a way
that is socially unacceptable find out why- and work out how to teach
them a different way to behave when they feel hurt, angry etc. How many
adults do you know who cant do that- they lash out when angry,
behave in anti-social or unkind ways. How different this would be if
they had learned as a child that there are other ways!

If she asks something - she wants a lolly or a toy- and you say 'no'
- how are you teaching her to negotiate, or to express her feelings
and handle not getting something she would like? A 'no' leaves no room for anything
- it's a brick wall- and most people who hear that word
don't feel valued, or listened to - and react accordingly.
'No' is a word I remove from my vocabulary with children - there are
other ways to handle situations that enable both parties to remain
calm and still feel positively connected to one another.
Let me share them with you!

Another behaviour I remove completely is the raising of voices. To anyone!
But especially children- it changes who they are.
Once you do that the other person stops listening, and you are
out of control. Is that really what you want? Again, I help people
figure out ways to express themselves - without shouting or using
a negative dialogue. How we argue and disagree with others is something
many of us need to re-learn - for our own sakes as well as that of
our children, partner and friends!

So that's where I feel I come in- sharing experiences and ideas to
help you go that step further and parent for the future, rather than
just 'controlling' situations in the moment. If your child - of any age-
knows that you will listen to what they need, empathise with how they
feel, and try to work with them rather than against them, you will see
great results when they are adults. They will have learned, from you,
how to intereact with others.
YOU teach them how to behave in the world. So 'be' who you
want them to be!
I also hope I can teach you how to express yourself in ways that
work better for you- , and enable others to understand you. You'll get
far more of what you want and need.
Teach others how to listen to you! It's not just
children who want to be listened to - it's all of us.

When I am working with couples - 'Relationship Rescue' - one of the
main things I hear from both sides is that their partner doesn't listen to them.
Often they are incorrect- their partner is listening!- at least for the
first few minutes anyway :-)
What they arent doing well is understanding- and without understanding
they can't give their partner what they need. So if I
can teach you to really listen- this will help you understand and relate
to your children- and also help you develop more meaningful and
mutually rewarding relationships with the adults in your life.
Your kids will see how you are able to listen to, and emplathise with others
(even when you dont agree with them) and learn to do the same.
Think how different society would be if we were to all stop taking,
and start listening.
So let's start with our children.

Please join me! Let's start creating calmer,
kinder and happier families. YOU DESERVE IT!

Emma:-)

 

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The Child Listener™ is developing the Parents Aboard Program and promoting
her ' Triple L Approach to Life' - Listen, Learn and Lead-
Triple L - Training and Development.




The Parents Aboard Program is part of 'Read Australia™' and created to
empower parents by teaching them how to teach children to read
and spell with confidence- visit us on our new Facebook page- or click here for more info




Triple L Training and Development (Listen, Learn, Lead) aims to
bring together a wide range of well qualified and experienced professionals,
to offer exceptional training courses, workshops and personal
development opportunities in a variety of settings.

Training for Parents- Following the Triple L Approach
(Listen, Learn and Lead)

and
Training for Business Leaders - Following the Triple L Approach
(Listen, Learn, Lead)

The 'Triple L' Approach can be used to create great results
in a range of life situations

Click Here for More Info

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Childcare and Early Years Education

The Child Listener™ is an experienced Early Years Practitioner and former
OFSTED (Office for Standards in Education) Inspector
- responsible for assessing and recording (with published reports) the quality of
childcare and early years education within the UK- along with recommendations
for improvement. Emma is passionate about providing exceptional learning
environments for our children- starting in the early years.

Request bespoke professional development, along with professional advice
regarding early years curriculum planning, implementation and assessment..
and more!

Email emma@the-child-listener.com

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Register for Places on The Child Listener and her team's 2011 Literacy Workshops


Click here for workshops
relating to the teaching of reading
and spelling in Australia.
Delivered on the Gold Coast Queensland





Next workshops for primary and early childhood teachers
'Teaching young children to read, write and spell quickly and with confidence'-


Click here to book your place - or request School Professional Training- In-House

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The Child Listener™ and her team offer....

Promoting Positive Parenting Strategies for All

News Articles About The Child Listener™
Press? Email us with your Enquiry

 

The Child Listener™ often responds to blogs and writes articles
Latest response to 'Do Children Deserve Our Please'
Response to 'Does Your Baby Can Read Work?'

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One of The Child Listener's teams latest projects- helping
talented Aussie children develop within sports by securing financial
support from sponsors.

Sporting Superstars- Promoting Sponsorship Opportunities for
Children (and Teams) who Excel within Sports.
Be a Sportz Kidz™ Sponsor and
Help Children Develop to their Full Potential!
- Sportz-Kidz.com

Promoting www.GoldCoastFootball.com.au - Elite U12 Football Boys Team

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As parents it isn’t always enough to ‘do our best’-
our best may not enable us to meet the needs of our children,
however much we want it to.
Someone needs to stand up and speak up for those children, and offer
parents the information, knowledge and skills that will help them
be great role models.
That 'someone' is The Child Listener™

The Child Listener™ specialises in helping parents
and teachers learn to listen to children
and teenagers - and hear the words that are
not spoken, as well as to more accurately
interpret what is being said.

Understanding children allows us to gain a greater insight into the 'why'
of unwanted - and wanted!- behaviour, so that we can work more effectively towards long term goals, rather than using a quick fix/ band-aid type approach.

'The Child Listener™' - Emma Hartnell-Baker has a BEd Hons, and an MA
(specialising in Behaviour Management, Counselling,
Personal Social and Emotional Development and also Dyslexia)
from Nottingham University. She is about to undertake a PhD in Early Childhood.
Emma is passionate about children and their families.

Emma was appointed by the UK Government (Office for Standards
in Education) as an Inspector of Education and Childcare, and is a
world renown advisor for families and schools- relating to positive
behaviour management strategies. Emma is also a Professional Life Coach,
and founder of ‘Read Australia’- aiming to empower parents through
knowledge, working together to raise standards of literacy across
Australia. Around 20% of our kids aren’t reading to the desired level
at age 10 – help Emma and her team to change this!
Please see www.ReadAustralia.com for more info.

The Child Listener™ offers private consultations, family therapy, advisory
services relating to early childhood curriculum planning and assessment as well
as childcare and primary school in-service training within Queensland,
Australia. She is currently working on an intensive program relating
to 'family rescue' and 'supporting parents with the development of
healthy emotional development- children
born from sperm donation, egg donation, surrogacy and adoption'.

" Creating choices for single women, lesbian and infertile couples- and at the same
time protecting the rights and needs of children created from sperm donation."

Read her 'Children Deserve to Know Where They Come From' campaign page


Issues relating to children born through egg and sperm donation, surrogacy - or who are adopted.
And read her comments on the FSDW site page

Emma and her team offer a range of lifestyle coaching and therapy services, as well
as workshops and training for schools and organisations working
with children & teenagers. There is a focus on the development of verbal, social
and emotional intelligence.

The Child Listener™ works with parents so that they gain understanding
as to the 'why' of their child's behaviour, and are then able to develop
strategies to bring about long term mutually beneficial change.


'Learning to Listen to Children'- Workshops for Parents


The Child Listener™ takes a proactive approach to child development
and behaviour, and encourages parents to develop strategies that
enable children to learn 'social rules' and yet maintain independent
thought and creativity. Strategies that help children to be intrinsically
motivated to 'be their best' earlier rather than later. She asks parents to
consider - even before they are born!- how they are going to help children to
develop their authentic selves. Many parents are fairly set in their ways
about how the world works, and what 'parenting' means- however there
is no parenting style or strategy that works for all- and parenting may need
to be different for different children! Those who really want to offer their
children the greatest chance of being happy, productive members of society
may need to work harder, be more creative, more patient and accept that
what seems to be 'right' to them may not always be effective.

They will need to take the time to consider what they really want for
their children, long term, so that they can take action to create this from day
one. Its the small things parents do every day that mould them into the adults
they are going to be. The Child Listener loves to work with parents
who want to expand on their knowledge and try new things- for the
long term benefit of their children.

As David Bly so aptly put
"Your children will become what you are; so be what you want them to be."
YOU are their main role model- and what you DO and how you BEHAVE
(rather than what you say) teaches them how to be in the world.
If you cant communicate when frustrated by others, without using
personal attacks and without raising your voice, then don't expect them to either.

Do you need to improve on, or learn new skills, to be a better role model?

Then contact The Child Listener™ today!

Let's leave living in judgment and 'being right' at the door- moving forwards
in a positive manner, towards a brighter future"
The Child Listener, 2009

'Triple L Training and Development' - Listen, Learn and Lead.
07 5510 9960

Working with you, to live life to the Max..- Live Life with Pizzazz!

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The Child Listener™ and her team are also working on a
project to help children with social, emotional
and behavioural difficulties, and other special needs
including poor literacy achievement

Animal Therapy 4 Kids